Any guy who is successful with women follows the same basic pattern of behavior. These patterns of behavior that ultimately lead to success in love form dating rules for men. Follow these simple tips if you want to become more attractive for pretty girls.
We are living in times of equality between genders, however, to be successful guys need to realize that dating and work have different rules. It’s like switching lights on and off: When it’s sunny outside, you don’t need extra lighting in a room. But when it becomes darker, doing things inside without lights on is rather impractical. These dating rules work the same way: You need to follow them if you want to have a good relationship.
1. Appearance Matters
The simplest way to instantly improve your results with ladies is to dress better. Women love a man who looks clean and tidy, just like you can’t miss a beautiful girl entering a room. The same product, packed differently, will show dissimilar results if sold in a store. Even if you think, “It shouldn’t matter”, your appearance is important to ladies.
No matter how comfortable this worn-out T-shirt and shorts feel, they won’t help you to get the girl of your dreams. But a relatively small amount of money spent on buying clothes that look great on you will bring you several steps closer to having a girlfriend or a long-term partner, if this is your goal.
- Go to a good department store and ask a male shop assistant to help you pick outfits. You need a couple of slacks and jeans, 3-4 long-sleeve shirts and polo-shirts, a jacket, and 1-2 pairs of shoes, plus socks to match.
- Tell the store assistant how much money you are prepared to spend and he will be able to create a few good looking outfits for you.
- it’s best to buy clothes in one place, as items may not match if purchased separately, and you are not a fashion guru.
- Then simply use your clean and ironed new clothes when going to dates or making photos for your online dating profile.
- Unless you work on your appearance and presentation first, all other rules and dating ideas won’t work. Girls are simply put off by guys who look untidy.
2. Get Healthy
If you are overweight, shed some pounds. Quit sugar, eat vegetables instead of potatoes or pasta, and give up fast food and soft drinks. Moderate exercise will speed up your metabolism. There is no quick fix to get yourself in a good shape but in the long run, it will not only bring you more dates but also make you happier and allow to enjoy life and love for longer.
Smoking also is a problem for many females. If you give up smoking, your dating pool will increase 3-4 times.
3. Become Interesting
Success in dating is more about who you are than what you say or do. Regardless of how you act with a woman, if you spend your spare time in front of a screen watching TV or surfing the Internet, there is not much you can impress her with. Sure, with a good outfit, haircut and some routine you learned in a pick-up class, you may be able to pass the initial introduction stage, but what are you going to do next? A man is attractive as a relationship partner for a lady if he has some substance.
Having mutual life goals is a great way to be interesting to a quality lady, as well as similar hobbies and pastimes.
4. Stop Complaining
Negative people destroy their partner’s enjoyment of life. Make it your habit to follow the old rule, “If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing” for a while. After a few weeks, you will notice that people around you and females in your life have warmed up to you. You may catch yourself saying negative things a few times but you can definitely become positive if you just decide this is what you want to achieve.
5. Improve Self-Awareness
It’s easier to meet someone for a relationship when you know who you are and what you want, without being too harsh on yourself or overly optimistic. Take some time to write down on a piece of paper what are your best qualities and shortcomings, dreams and goals. There are people in this world who want someone like you and you don’t need to pretend to be someone you are not. Be yourself, accept yourself, and strive to do better; that’s the key.
6. Set an online dating profile
Once you have sorted out the basics (rules 1-5), it’s time to start dating online. A good photo in your profile where you are dressed tidy and look good, a positive text expressing who you truly are and describing some interesting hobbies will create a great first impression. With a good profile, you will be able to score some dates.
It’s easier to meet women online than in clubs and bars. Another fact that is important, quality ladies rarely if ever spend time in places of afternoon entertainment -but they join dating sites.
You don’t have to limit your options of meeting women by Internet. Having hobbies and being involved in community life (p.3) will help you get in touch with some single ladies. Still, Internet is an extremely easy way to start conversations with other singles and it would be unwise to miss on its advantages. You can also learn a lot about women and what they want when reading their profiles.
7. Approach Women
Being a man, it’s your responsibility to initiate. Sure, some ladies take initiative, too, but in general, you will be 10 times more successful if you approach women first. It doesn’t matter that 20 girls didn’t answer your messages on a dating site. Maybe your email #21 will reach the lady who was seeking someone like you all her life. You only need one right person, so keep sending out these first requests. Some will be accepted and your new love adventure can begin.
8. Learn to mirror
Every person has his or her communication style. Some people talk a lot and loudly, others say little and speak softly. The use of words and the amount of information per message also differs. Try to adapt your communication style and vocabulary to that of your partner. It will make it simpler for her to connect to what you are saying and feel closer to you.
When you are on an actual face-to-face date, the same applies to gestures and poses. If you move away when she leans in, it’s not a good body language. She leans in, you lean in too-this is called mirroring. Try to do it in your daily conversations with other people first and then use the same method in dating women. It puts ladies at ease and allows them to relax in your company.
9. Be interested
The most straightforward way to make people interested in you is to be interested in them: Who they are, what they do, what they love, things they do for fun. As you chat, in online communication or personally on a date, try to discover things that are common for both of you. Maybe you’ve seen the same comedy show in LA or both visited Paris. The more things you have in common, the more comfortable the lady feels with you.
10. The woman who likes you will want to be with you
If you simply followed 9 previous steps, you will have enough options to meet single women seeking relationships. Simply keep setting up dates, show up, and do your best.
With time you will become way better in dating, just like doing push-ups daily will guarantee your nice biceps in a few months.
- If a woman doesn’t like you, she doesn’t like you; that’s all it is. It doesn’t mean you are not a good man and a great potential relationship partner. There are billions of other women in the world and it’s a waste of time to try to make a woman who doesn’t like who you are, to be with you.
- Simply contact other women and you will find the right match.
- There are countless success stories that prove it works.
You don’t need luck, you just need to do it – and you will find love you have always dreamed about.